In today’s life, where hatred, loneliness, competition have become mainstream topics, it’s hard to achieve inner beauty peace of mind. The worst part is people wanting to escape their own thoughts. It’s crucial to find inner peace because the person you spend the most time with is yourself. But are we really spending time with ourselves or is it some external factors stopping us to do so?
People are committing suicide out of depression because they are not at peace with their thoughts. If that doesn’t scream out the need for mental peace in people’s lives, there’s no better time to introduce people to one. Life doesn’t have to be a burden we carry all along and fill yourself with grief. You can be the happiest person around you by being at peace with your thoughts.
Below are 11 effortless ways, you can find inner peace and become your happiest self.
- Learn to forgive: Nobody is asking you to forget what happened. Because if you forget, you forget the learning too. A mistake forgotten is a mistake repeated. Instead, get over the pain that they caused you and still remember the incident. This way, you’ll learn to not repeat your mistake while still keeping your peace of mind.
- Don’t hold grudges: Holding grudges is the most harmful thing a person can do to their inner peace. It’s like holding a lump of burning coal on your bare hand and expecting the other to burn from it. This is never gonna happen. You will destroy all your peace and happiness and the one hurting you won’t even be aware of it. This way, you’re letting them hurt you twice. Once by causing the pain which is why you have grudges and then by killing you inside. The best way is to forgive them not for them but, for yourself.
- Get out of the toxic relationships: Not only love relation, any relationship whether it’s with friends or relatives can be toxic and will do exactly what toxin does, kill you. It will kill the happy you by killing your peace of mind. How many times have you found yourself in the middle of a situation where you are well aware of the fact that a relative or friend talks ill of you behind your back, you both do not agree on a single topic, and everything you say is always misunderstood by them and hence, becomes a reason for an argument. But, you still have to keep talking to them just because you’ve known them for years and they are apparently your relative/friend? This is where you are hampering your mental peace just to keep a fake relationship. People are meant to add value to your life. If they’re doing the complete opposite of it, it’s high time to bid them goodbye. Nobody is going to bother if you’re mentally disturbed or not. At least, those toxic people won’t. It’s your duty to keep yourself happy and maintain your peace of mind. If you see that a relationship is adding unnecessary drama, negativity, and tears in your life, the best thing to do is to get out of it.
- Don’t take everything personally: So what if one person said that they don’t trust men/women? So what if the CEO of a big company said something about a particular group? Just because you belong to the same community doesn’t mean it was said directly to you. There are always exceptions. It’s better to focus on being one instead of fussing about it and falling into the same category you were trying to prove you aren’t a part of. Sure it is subjective. But then again, it’s your rage falling off the sky on one side and your peace of mind in the other. You get to decide which one to catch and save.
- Let go of anger: If life’s a game, the first one to get angry loses. If it’s not, he still loses. That’s the thing about anger, it destroys the very place it lives. Nothing in human history has caused more destruction than anger, envy, and greed. This point is by far the most difficult to follow and the easiest at the same time. Once you understand the damage anger is causing to your personality and mental health, you will run as far of it as you can.
- Respect every opinion: This has been discussed in a previous article. Read it here. Just because someone doesn’t think the way you do, doesn’t mean they’re wrong. And even if they are, it’s not your job to fix everyone or to argue with them for that matter. Your prime focus is on your own mental stability. You can’t make others happy if you aren’t happy yourself. Aim for your peace first and then you’ll be qualified to teach others. Let them be content with their opinion and you be with yours. Diversity keeps the spark alive. Think, how monotonous things will be if everybody has the same opinion.
- Give yourself some quality time: How often do you give time to yourself? No, I’m not talking about the time you’re driving alone or scrolling through your phone. The time when it’s only you and your thoughts. Not so often, right? People even take phones along to the restroom, this is how afraid people these days are of spending time with themselves. Learn to be comfortable with yourself. After all, all of this hustle is for you and your peace of mind. Sure this can have negative impacts. If somebody is not at peace with their thoughts, this can drag them down even further. So, make sure that you’re calm and satisfied before doing this. A better way is to write your sorrow down and empty out your mind. You need to figure out what works for you.
- Get off social media: As the younger generation is being more aware of their mental health, they are realizing what damage social media cause to it. The more you see other leading(pretend to lead) a perfect life, the more unsatisfied will you be with yours. This will always keep you in a fallacy that you’re lacking something, that you aren’t good enough. And to be so-called-perfect like them, you’ll buy more things, click more pictures, add more filters, post more status updates, spend more time scrolling and comparing your life with them and get stuck in this never-ending trap with no escape. Do you seriously want to do that to yourself? Do you really want all your efforts to achieve mental peace go in vain? No? Then get out of this trap. Your life means more than this. You mean more than this. Keep reminding that to yourself.
- Let go of things you can’t control: If you can change it, do it. If you can’t, there’s no reason to keep thinking about it and losing your peace of mind. Either go ahead and change what bothers you or throw it out of your mind. Cribbing is the most immature way to react to a situation.
- What others think of you is none of your business: The easiest (read wisest) is to change yourself, the hardest is to change others. You can’t change what others think of you, so change the way you react to it. As long as you’re doing what’s right, morally correct, and makes you happy, you don’t have to think about what people say behind your back. Most of the time people slander about others when they can’t have what you do. This should never bother you. If you’ve learned to differentiate between constructive and destructive criticism, you’re good to go.
- Redirect the flow of your energy: All these things discussed above are easier said than done. Agreed! Now what? How to comply with these? You guessed it. By redirecting the flow of your energy. Spend more time doing the things you love. Dust that long due book, start meditating, write your untamed thoughts down, learn that dance routine, cook your favorite food, pamper yourself, work out, light those scented candles if that’s what makes you feel alive. Do anything that makes you happy and take your mind off those unsolicited pessimist thoughts.
Inner peace is something every human needs, to live the life they desire. It can be found but not limited to these points. The more you work on yourself, the better you become. Even if one point of this article can make a change in someone’s life, the purpose of writing this is served.